Regarding the causes of insecurity there are several complementary explanations. The simplest explanation follows from the theory of "learning on models" by albert Bandura. In accordance with this theory, a new repertoire of skills aggressive, confident or insecure behavior arises as a result of imitation, copying the child of those behaviors it has the opportunity to observe around.
Parents, relatives, friends serve as "models" to be copied.
The result is confident, aggressive or insecure personality emerges as a "snapshot" samples of behavior in the environment of the child.Another popular explanation of uncertainty can be considered the theory of "learned helplessness" by Martin Seligman. He suggested that the formation of a child's personality is affected not only "models" that serve to copy, but the reaction of parents, and wider, all the surrounding social environment on a child's behavior.
This feedback allows (or allows) the child to relate to different stereotypes of social behavior with different reactions of the social environment. The nature of the relationship between the samples of the child's behavior and reaction environment (parental behaviour) defines a positive, healthy, or impaired development of a child. In the second case may occur the so-called "learned helplessness".Seligman defines helplessness as a condition that occurs in a situation when external events are beyond our control and nothing we can do to prevent them or modify.
The feeling of helplessness arises when external events precaut quite independently of our arbitrary actions (the objective conditions of powerlessness), or if we think that they occur independently (subjective conditions). The result of pairing in time of the active arbitrary and uncontrollable consequences occur sad result - lost motivation for any action involving changes in the external environment.
So, learned helplessness occurs when a child either receives no response (the situation, for example, children's home, where the attention of educators distributed over a large number of children); or gets monotonous negative ("still being punished") or monotonous positive ("sissy") feedback. Further, another explanation for uncertainty may be the absence or lack of faith in the efficacy of their actions. Low self-efficacy occurs as a result of massive negative evaluations from the close friends and teachers, which in consequence are modified in a negative self-assessment of your own intentions and capabilities.
These negative self-evaluations block, on the one hand, social initiative, and on the other hand, cause negative (unpleasant) emotions.From the above explanation of uncertainty, it does not follow that self-confidence is laid, so to speak, from birth. The child is born with certain inclinations and abilities, with perhaps some physical or mental disabilities.
These inclinations, abilities, and shortcomings facilitate or complicate the task of socialization, but do not determine the formation level of confidence. At the initial stage of socialisation in the formation of confidence play a role many factors, but first and foremost is the variety of options of purchase (copy of study) new social skills and a variety of adequate and immediate response to these skills social environment.Otherwise, there is a "negative" option - the formation of uncertainty. The social environment in which the future is born insecure extremely poor impressions and monotonous.
The repertoire of skills that can be observed and copied, is very limited. The social environment, the reactions of parents or caregivers also monotonous and mostly negative. Achievements and successes in the mastery of this environment is not obvious, denied, or criticized. Negative feedback (or no feedback) is a constant experience of failure. Negative self-esteem and expectations of failure become a familiar way of internal dialogue and lead to the rejection of self-initiative in learning new aspects of reality, passivity and timid in carrying out their intentions.
As a result of sloppy people lower reaches in life, life itself, any form of activity he carries a lot of negative experiences, these experiences in turn impact on the health of the person and his loved ones.
In the broader context of society or organization in which they live and work in insecure people, lack of initiative of its members. In such a society or organization is dominated by congestion, too much energy is wasted in useless discussions and doubts. Reasonable cooperation of people for the implementation of the shared intent does not occur, each living within its own (rather painful) world.